MY DEMOCRACY DAY THOUGHTS Happy Democracy Day to you All! May 29, 2016 and I did not hear the usual chant of "June 12 should be our democracy day!" Got me wondering if it's because our brother is now the VP. Nigerians and brotherly love... Mscheew! Pro-Buhari Crusaders? I admired their resilience. They found their way into all the media houses and were so passionate. For them PMB must be seen to have achieved something. One Chibok girl walking back was not enough. By mid afternoon, I got tired of listening to rehearsed, heated arguements of what Baba did and did not do. Did all Nigerians travel to the moon for 365 days? It so reminded me of the PDP era... but hey, guess the cross-carpeting and new name didn't change APC much. Besides, who does not know that One out of Four years is too early for blame games.

A look at his glowing face added years to my life. All the sadness and stress of the day flew out of the window as I watched him toss my wrapped gift around. He had no clue what I had gotten for him, but he was happy. His appealing innocence melted my hard resolve to cut short my visit. Bending down with a wide smile, I lifted him into the air and laughed out at his musical giggles.  "Who needs to see an Angel when I have one in my arms" was the thought that raced through my head as I yielded to the strong urge to wrap my arms around him. 

I was taught never to look down on people no matter their status. Back in the days, Nigerians were kind and peaceful people, but now old things have indeed passed away. Some people now feel that being the Leader of any group or community gives them the right to disrespect or maltreat their subordinates or the people who elected them to that position. Treating people with disdain simply because of your current status, their present predicament or position in life will never add more years to your life.  The fact that you are smarter, richer, or that you got a political appointment does not make you better than the next person or even more appealing. The fact that you ride in one of the most expensive cars in the world or that you have been swimming in milk and honey all your life does not justify your demeaning attitude neither does it give you the right to look down on another person’s meager hussle or humble lifestyle.

She emerged from beneath the cool water with a happy smile plastered on her handsome face, nobody considered her beautiful. After a terrible day at work and having to run official errands in the hot sun, dipping her body in the water felt like being born again.  As she waded through the crystal clear water towards the edge of the swimming pool and her pile of cloths, she felt that burning desire to move into the mansion and closer to the swimming pool  rush over her yet again. Sighing softly, she knew it was time to get out of the water.  Reluctantly climbing out, she stood still for a while as the evening breeze hastily licked up the droplets of water cascading down her supple skin to form a small pool at her bare feet on the tiled deck. It was the first time she was swimming naked and it felt rejuvenating. Ignoring her cloths by the pool side she walked over to the array of lounge chairs and almost purred as she stretched out on one.  Tonia felt like ...

She emerged from the cool water with a happy smile plastered on her handsome face. After a terrible day at work and having to run official errands in the hot sun, the water felt like being born again. As she waded through the crystal clear water towards the edge of the swimming pool and her pile of cloths, she felt that burning desire to move into the mansion and closer to the swimming pool  rush over her yet again. Sighing softly, she knew it was time to get out of the water.  Reluctantly climbing out, she stood still for a while as the evening breeze hastily licked up the droplets of water cascading down her supple skin to form a small pool at her bare feet on the tiled deck. It was the first time she was swimming naked and it felt rejuvenating. Ignoring her cloths by the pool side she walked over to the array of lounge chairs and almost purred as she stretched out on one.  Tonia felt like dancing beneath the radiant glow of the setting sun as it embraced the horizon wi...

What  do you do when you have a naughty Kid? This is the story of how my friend Abby attended an event with her child.  Junior can be very naughty. I remember someone once said its only a chain or handcuff that would hold him down. Taking him out for any occasion always ended up awry. Abby and her hubby would arm themselves with a sack load of candies to keep him preoccupied or lobby him with future treats. The boy can demolish any mountain of candy in seconds.

This week, I am looking out for my single and married sisters, so guys kindly chill for us. This article took the words right out of my mouth. Enjoy... I packed his lunch. I got up early before my workday started to drive to his apartment, pick him up and drop him off at the office. I rearranged my schedule to make sure I could take him home. I picked up his favorite snacks when we had movie night. I used my credit card to pay for his shopping sprees and loaned him my car when he wanted to take an overnight trip to see his family. The pain of discovering he was cheating on me was magnified when I realized our whole relationship consisted of me acting like his wife—when he hadn’t even treated me like his girlfriend yet. Of course, I’ve moved on from that relationship and have found better for myself. I’m now happily married to the man of my dreams. Yet, now as a wife, wiser woman and dating coach, I’ve worked with plenty of women who still hold my old mentality....

Are you married? Do you have plans of getting hitched someday? This enriching article by a relationship expert is for you... Before I was married, I enjoyed the single life. It was fun for me hanging out with my girls almost every weekend, taking road trips, not having to check in with anyone about where I was going and not having to let anyone know when I would be returning. The single life definitely had its moments of enjoyment. However, after I said “I do,” I acknowledged there were some actions that couldn’t join me in marriage. In order to make a relationship work, I believe there are certain behaviors married folks just shouldn’t do. Here are 10 signs that you may be acting single while married:                                                                              ...

Some Nigerians can form eh I was in a fine and expensive restaurant when two young men walked in with two ladies. It turned out I grew up with one of the men. The other young man, a full blooded Nigerian had this American accent and kept on saying "whor" meaning "what" I guess, to everything we said. He claimed that he could not understand our grammar. Our mutual friend became the translator. I didn't mind oh. Besides it could be his first time in Naija, wetin concern me.  They joined my table, placed their orders and half way through their meal, they encouraged the girls to order for some more. The girls did not waste a second. Trust Naija girls. Besides, who no like awoof?

I don’t know about you, but sleeping without electricity almost every other night and having to device strategies for coping with the heat wave is nearly driving me up the wall.  Most of us accepted the reality that we cannot obtain redress from the courts for being denied our political, economic, social, cultural and developmental rights and decided to be  mini Local Governments. We started taking care of our power, water and security issues. We swallowed the bitter pill and were managing our localities until recently. 

Something very strange has been happening and I can't keep it to myself anymore. When I was younger it was very easy to kill ants, cockroaches, flies and even mosquitoes. They were very meek and would wait for you to kill them, end of story. These days, insects no wan die. Their speed the moment you try to kill them leaves you wondering if they have been to hell and back.

Growing up was fun. It had its high and low points, but today I thank God for lessons learnt. One thing was stable though; My family. Back then, a friend of mine complained about how her parents would argue and fight in front of them. Her dad would slap his mum and mum would insult his whole generation. It was terrible and rubbed off badly on my friend who was always ready to fight even my wars. I did not understand what she was saying because my parents never fought nor yelled. I never saw them argue instead couples with problems always came to the house to settle their issues. In my young mind, my parents were perfect. As an adult I have realized that every marriage, relationship or union has it's rocky side. Life is not always sweet and rosy and being a parent is the hardest job ever. I have also realized that my parents like every other couple must have had their differences. However, whatever issue they had was settled in the bedroom and definitely never in front of their...