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Gifts for your Man...the Secret revealed!
So, Christmas day is almost here and you are still waiting patiently or anxiously for Nikky to give you a list of gifts for your Nigerian Man. In fact I know that most of you are wondering;
"why in heaven’s name is she delaying the whole gist sef?"
Well sorry to disappoint you all. There is no gist and no
list!
Na me and you dey for the relationship? Wetin sef?
How could you be living with or dating a man for years, months
even weeks and still find it hard to know what to get him for a special season like Christmas? Haba! It’s absurd, totally ridiculous! It only goes to show that you are not into that
relationship. Yes, its either you are marking time with him or you are out rightly neglecting your man, starving him of love and
affection. It’s either you have forgotten your roots or you just never asked
your mum how she got your dad to be loyal.
Okay your argument is: “Nikky this is not the good old days. Naija Men don evolve!”
My response; nothing has changed. Nigerian Men are like their fathers. Forget all the gadgets, forming and decking up. They all have the same craving. In fact, I think Nigerian women changed more than the men. some of us just rushed out and absorbed the oyinbo way of life; hook, line and sinker. I am being sincere and not biased.
I’m not a relationship expert, but sister; I think it’s time
for you to be a true Nigerian woman; it’s time to mend your broken
relationship. It’s definitely time to possess your possession.
How do you do that?
1. Be His Real Naija Girl
Girl that's the easy part! Give him what you have been denying him. A normal Nigerian man needs your time, loyalty, care, trust (even if he is the most untrustworthy man on earth), and at the top of the list is Love.Its Christmas girl, turn off that phone, quit pinging for a minute, say NO to girls night outs and to all the Tech distractions. Show him some love; show him what he has being missing.
Girl that's the easy part! Give him what you have been denying him. A normal Nigerian man needs your time, loyalty, care, trust (even if he is the most untrustworthy man on earth), and at the top of the list is Love.Its Christmas girl, turn off that phone, quit pinging for a minute, say NO to girls night outs and to all the Tech distractions. Show him some love; show him what he has being missing.
2. Communication, Therapy, Prayers:
If you still love that man abeg do not let go yet. Start with talking about it. Find out what went wrong, where both of you derailed. See a counselor if necessary, then pray about it. The truth is; you need Jesus to heal your broken heart and teach you how to forgive that man for all his wrong doings…some Naija men sabi mess up sha.
If you still love that man abeg do not let go yet. Start with talking about it. Find out what went wrong, where both of you derailed. See a counselor if necessary, then pray about it. The truth is; you need Jesus to heal your broken heart and teach you how to forgive that man for all his wrong doings…some Naija men sabi mess up sha.
3. Time to Let Go:
If you have been loyal, caring and loving all for nothing, then abeg reconsider because he might be far gone. It might be time to move on to greener pastures.
4. Ask:
If you opted for the healing and he is willing then it’s okay to ask him what he wants for the season. Nobody wants to buy a gift that would be trashed after awhile. Trust me; he would be willing to share all his desires with you.
If you opted for the healing and he is willing then it’s okay to ask him what he wants for the season. Nobody wants to buy a gift that would be trashed after awhile. Trust me; he would be willing to share all his desires with you.
Enjoy the Season!!
No way Nikky, I am not in support of this story. What of the Nigeria women? It is high time women cared less of this so called men. It is no longer a man's world in the developed world expect in this banana republic called Niaja! It's Christmas we both buy present for each other or we stay without it.
ReplyDeleteGood write up! Ladies, una don hear una sister abi? Buy gifts for your men :)
ReplyDeleteNikky, the lover counselor. How many did you buy?
ReplyDeleteNikky itz not abt knowing ur man coz he may be in d category of erratic changes. One minute he likes ds n d next he doesn't like it. Trust me it would hurt wen u get something u tink ur man would love n he just acts casual wen u give it to him. In dt case wat do u do?
ReplyDeleteWell I guess dt showing him love n very gud attention may be worth it n wen I say very gud attention I mean very very very good attention like never b4. ....*winking*
@ Wendy; eratic changes? Is he in his period? Abeg na women dey get dt kin change.
ReplyDeleteSome of u girls are just stingy. Buy d gift first but make sure to ask me cos I no like surprises oh
I have read this article over ND over and i just love it
ReplyDeleteU cant buy me a gift wen u Kip nagging and pissing me off..I wont take d stupid gift.
Make me happy nd glad to have u in my life then we cn talk of gifts..first things first. Cook beta food for me and I go spoil u till u taya
Nikky u are biased...coming from u I must say I least expected this. Imagine oh..so we shld make dem Lords abi? Men are d cause of d problem n d world. They shld be sent to anoda planet
ReplyDeleteNikky is not biased. Having a peaceful and joyful home is the only gift I want. Nma do u want her to encourage bitterness and anger? In marriages or relationships, gifts are encouraged but they should never be a do or die affair.
ReplyDeleteD best gift my hubby can give to me is to love my children and make them happy. Gifts can wait. Its all d fake attitude that leads to broken homes.
Nikky you are so right.